Let go of the toxic relationship you have with those too small jeans you keep in your closet. They represent the idea that your body at this size isn’t desirable or worthy. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. ✌🏻
^ those are the words I told myself about the pair of overall shorts I had being holding onto in the hopes that “someday” they’d fit again. Truthfully all they did was serve as a daily gut punch that made me feel like my current body wasn’t good enough.
This summer they hit the donate pile SO fast, and this new pair replaced them. That tiny shift felt like the biggest weight lifted off, even if it wasn’t those extra pounds.
Do you have any “when I’m skinny again” reminders in your closet? It’s time to let ‘em go! ✌🏻
I know I know. You’ve probably seen this quote floating around A LOT the past few days.
Hear me out.
Since, I don’t know FOREVER?! January has been full of new diets, new fads, change. But WHY do we feel the need to overhaul ourselves just because the year is different?
Truthfully? I like who I am! The extra 2020 weight and all! 😜 Do I have areas I would like to improve in? Sure! But just because it’s 2021 does NOT mean I’m going to just suddenly be able to be a morning person or hate pizza and cookies. I honestly don’t see a need to put all the pressure on myself to attempt to be someone I’m not. Who the hell has time for that?!
If you’re feeling the pressure to loose weight, make a big change or take a big leap- we don’t need to rush those things. Take your time. Starting in January doesn’t make those things any easier or more important. ❤️ And damn it, here is to always improving the people we are, NOT trying to completely change them. 👏🏻
If you wouldn’t say it to your daughter, don’t say it to yourself. 𝘙𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯. Now remember that the sweet little girl who makes your world turn is looking to you to show her what self love is. How can we expect them to love themselves if we don’t show them how?
Replace your negatives with positives. Let her know that their worth is not determined by a pant size. Be proud of YOUR body so she knows to be proud of hers. 𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘚𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘚𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘶𝘱 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧. 🧡
I’m guilty of trying to force those doors open. Trying to fit in to a box that wasn’t mine to be in.
I was driven by the constant need to fit in. Be included. Be LIKED. Fitting myself into a mold that just wasn’t me.
It was almost exactly a year ago when I decided to say “YES” to myself. The real me- not the me that I thought I should be, or the one others wanted me to be. Did I wake up one day and suddenly not care what others thought?
Of course not.
I still struggle with that. Everyday. But what I did do was decide that MY opinion mattered more than anyone else’s.
Do I like who I am? Am I being true to myself? Am I happy? Are my actions affecting my loved ones?
Those are the questions that I constantly ask myself, especially when I find myself feeling less than or knocking on those doors that aren’t mine.
The last year I’ve found out more about myself and embraced my truth more than ever before. It’s been quite a year, and I’m so proud of my growth.